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The Bully Culture

What should have been an uncontroversial blog last was plagued by online bullies who derailed the conversation. In how many other ways do bullies affect our culture and why do we tolerate it?

I will be the first to admit that I can be stubborn as a mule - I get that from my Dad. If there is a fight to be had, I am going to go all in. I respect everyone’s right to their opinion, but if you are going to post on a public comment section, do not be surprised if someone like me is going to jump in when we see a hole in your argument or an error in your facts. If you are secure enough in your beliefs, I do not see why having to defend your position should bother you. If you find yourself without a defense, perhaps you need to do more research or reconsider your beliefs. Apparently, this mindset has made me some enemies on The Patch. Of all the topics that I could have written about last week, I thought that writing about my children would have been relatively drama free. However, within 15 minutes of my blog posting I was proven wrong. The first negative comment questioned my commitment to my family. As each day passed, the accusations grew more vicious. Finally, the editor was forced to close the comments section. While I have never seen the online bullying rise to levels it did on my blog, almost anyone on this section of the Patch can expect some level of personal attack if they dare to express an opinion that is different than the majority opinion. For this reason, some bloggers have been forced to turn off the comments when they post. Other posters just go away, which is bad for the level of discourse. What does anyone learn from a comment section where everyone agrees? This type of public bullying seems to have hit epidemic proportions in today’s world. For example, not only did Lance Armstrong cheat his way through his career, he ruthlessly covered his tracks. Anyone who dared to expose was subject to his wrath. The courts were often his weapon of choice. Frankie Andreu was one of Lance’s teammates. He and his wife, Betsy, were also his friends and when visiting him in the hospital overheard him list to the doctor the performance enhancing drugs that he had taken. They did not release this information until they were deposed under oath. Lance retaliated for their refusing to commit perjury by interfering with Frankie’s ability to work in the cycling industry and publicly attacking his former friends. They also received threatening messages from a third party. Another example lies with the conspiracy theorists promoting their agenda about the Sandy Hook shootings. Today’s 24 hour news cycle requires news outlets to rush to the airwaves before a story has fully developed. This leaves room for lots of errors in the initial reporting, which in turn leaves the seeds for conspiracies to grow. The Internet serves as the fertilizer with the ability to rapidly spread these theories. However, to keep these conspiracies alive, existing knowledge needs to be questioned and this is where bullying comes in. Gene Rosen is a genuine hero of the tragedy. Six children ended up on his driveway after the shooting and he took them in, calmed them down and connected them with their parents. What does he get for his heroism? According to the Huffington Post, “truthers have so far posted Rosen's personal information online, created fake social media accounts using his name and harassed him via e-mail and phone.” As this weeks activities in Algeria remind us, the ultimate bullies in today’s society are the terrorists. They prey on innocent populations and use fear to try to promote their own agenda. Do as they say or innocent people will die. We expect our government to stand up to terrorists. Policies against negotiating with hostage takers are supported. We went to war with Afghanistan because they harbored Bin Laden. Certain Liberals were demonized for looking for reasons why the Arab world tends to hate us as if looking for these solutions somehow condoned the attacks on 9/11. Why is it that when the terrorism is more personal, society tends to look the other way? A “crudely edited” video on You Tube that is presented as Rosen’s “audition tape” has been viewed 27,000 times. In order for Lance Armstrong’s intimidation to work, he had to have the support of people within the cycling community. Bullies can only thrive in online communities if they feel they have the crowd behind them.

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DDMH May 27, 2013 at 07:06 am
Happy Memorial Day. Very nice blogs. I read them all. Sometimes we realize what holidays should really be for. I know that this is a bit late, but as the saying goes, "better late than never." Your words do have meaning and consequence and I hope they gave rise to atleast a few who still can reason and understand that there just might be another way of looking at an issue without hating the ideas of someone whom they happen to disagree with. Exchanging ideas is powerful and yes possibly even enlightening. It's also the foundation of a free society. Why would anyone want to "tread" on that.
Ken Mayes June 1, 2013 at 11:47 am
Question - how do we get a comment dated May 27 on a blog posted June 1st
Carl Petersen III June 1, 2013 at 12:11 pm
The article was actually posted in January. Apparently, editing the document causes the date to reset.
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Bd June 17, 2013 at 11:14 am
It would be hard to prove a negative. Are you insinuating that the money for additional policeRead More protection was wasted? Seems like simple logic to me that increased police presence over time would result in less crime, which would in-turn lead to more tourism, which would bring in more money for the City. Laguna Niguel is ranked every year as one of the safest cities in the U.S. Since there's so little crime there, why do they waste their money on any police at all???
LAKE ELSINORE RESIDENT June 17, 2013 at 12:45 pm
I want to see more cops on the street and I want to know if there was less crime.. I think weRead More need more police and I believe the PSAC is a waste of money, money which could go towards more police (no matter how small).
lotsahelp June 18, 2013 at 04:07 pm
Maybe when the week is over they can give you an answer... "There will be more deputies onRead More patrol in Lake Elsinore during the week of June 17-23, a sheriff’s sergeant is reporting. The beefed up patrols come as Lake Elsinore readies for increased summertime traffic. “As part of the city of Lake Elsinore's commitment to public safety the Lake Elsinore Police Department will be deploying additional units to enforce distracted driving, seatbelt violators, drinking and driving, as well as other traffic laws, the week of June 17-23,” according to a news release from Sgt. Peter Giannakakos, who serves out of the Lake Elsinore Sheriff’s Station."
American Girl June 17, 2013 at 04:56 pm
EVMWD rates are a crime! Take those darn pensions away and lower our rates. Over paid slackers!
Kevin Jon Sax June 18, 2013 at 10:59 am
Bobby Swann and John Lloyd are fantastic people. AND they are assets to the city. I'm glad and proudRead More to associate with them. --Kevin, Wildomar citizen
LAKE ELSINORE RESIDENT June 18, 2013 at 12:48 pm
Who is this nut job?
lotsahelp June 18, 2013 at 08:27 pm
Typical ler....you really know how to communicate effectively.
Ken Mayes June 15, 2013 at 06:55 am
The city is so excited they forgot to put this event on the cities website.
Rose Vicente June 15, 2013 at 09:16 am
Why not a parade in the streets?
Martha L. Bridges June 15, 2013 at 07:20 pm
Rose, we've had five years of having celebrations large and small with all the trappings ofRead More city-hood that Bridgette Moore could conjure up - right down to spending money the city didn't have to purchase monogrammed M&M. I suggest it's time to ring the bell and then get back to the real work of running the city. That would include doing the essential foundational work that has been skipped over in favor of window dressing and nonsense for the first five years.
scott osborne June 13, 2013 at 12:07 am
not to mention the day before someone hit a parked car on the same street, don't worry police showedRead More a good 50 min later, Wildomar needs a discount from the sheriffs dept for sure
Toni McAllister (Editor) June 12, 2013 at 05:02 pm
Yes ... Thanks for the reminder Tammi ...Read More http://lakeelsinore-wildomar.patch.com/groups/schools/p/lakeside-high-school-pool-open-to-public-through-aug-2
Barbara Dye June 13, 2013 at 12:02 am
Thanks Toni. I was just going to leave Tammi a comment about it.
BLUESGUITAR777 June 11, 2013 at 10:16 am
That place is weird. Cult like almost in their practices. The holding out the last note of everyRead More worship song to "invoke the spirit" is just totally unnecessary. I was glad to leave.
lotsahelp June 6, 2013 at 12:34 pm
TY for catching this!!!
Jeff Greene June 8, 2013 at 09:57 am
To be clear, Supervisor Jeffries is not yet in support of charging for parking at the hospital, butRead More supported Supervisor Stone's request to have it evaluated, and is willing to consider it based on the results. In his quotes that day he mentioned that when Kaiser started charging for their new structure, they almost immediately changed their mind because the response was so negative. Supervisor Jeffries' main interest in supporting a study of all the county's parking facilities was to determine whether we could save money on the parking structures we already charge for by going to an automated system, rather than staffing it full time with multiple county employees. We have been told that we are actually losing money on the fees we collect for parking, and if that is true, we want to either switch to a cheaper collection system or eliminate the fees entirely.
Chris Twining June 13, 2013 at 12:55 am
Let's hope not. Charging for parking, especially at a hospital, is disgusting to say the least. IRead More got an idea. Let's see if just one elected official can so SOMETHING!!! other than sitting around trying to figure out more and more ways to separate us from our money. Do you have a clue as to what's going on around you? Do you get out of bed in the morning? turn on the TV? go outside? You are 10 years too late. That kind of thing from elected politicians is over. Stop trying to raise money. There are so many things out there you could be doing to make a good name for yourself, and 99% of those things involve cutting spending. Get to the bottom of some things. Imagine how people would react to that. They would swarm at your feet and hold you in high regard. And if you ever find yourself in the hospital, I will gladly come visit you as long as I dont have to pay to park.